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Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

How to Deal With Low Self Esteem

By Guest Author On February 28, 2011 No Comments

Newborn Babies Don’t Have This Problem

Newborn babies have no self esteem problems. We have no concept, yet, of other people’s expectations. Then we grow up, start observing, and interacting with, the world and the people in it, and our personal belief systems begin to develop. In a very real sense, it’s our interactions with other people that are the root causes of low self esteem. Since we cannot avoid interacting with people, we have to learn how to identify these causes and stop them from affecting us.

The People You Know

The foundations for our self-esteem come from our parents. A child’s self-worth is based, in part, on the expectations of the parents and how well the child can meet those expectations. It is important for parents to see the limits to which they can make demands of their children. Also, criticism and snide comments can be internalized and become part of the child’s belief system and this will be held throughout their adult life. We cannot change our past, and we cannot blame our parents for wanting us to succeed, but what we can change is the way we look at it. Acknowledge the love, learn to set aside the disappointment, forgive where necessary, and move on. The entire field of positive motivation and daily affirmations is designed to combat those internalized feelings and beliefs and allow us to grow past them.

Relationships are also partly based on expectations, so it is important that communication about expectations is open, honest, and clear. Failing to meet an ideal that you you are unaware of can be very damaging to a relationship as well as our own self image. The same idea applies to friends and relatives and our relationships with them.  We need to be sure that we can clarify our role and understand what they expect of us.

Our self-image can also be affected by our relationships at work. On the one hand, the general expectations of the people around us are usually pretty clear. On the other hand, this clarity also makes in easier to point out our shortcomings and all all know people who are willing to do that pointing. What’s important here is to realize that a job can be looked at as  an opportunity for growth. If you do no have the required skills to grow at your job, yet, identify them so you can acquire them and meet your goals.

Comments, Real or Otherwise, From Strangers 

Most of us are affected, to a certain degree, by the remarks of total strangers. Perhaps we overhear comments of people as we walk down the street. We may think they’re about us, though they usually aren’t. Or perhaps we may read comments written in blogs or articles (especially when we actively participate in those blogged discussions. ) We may identify with certain groups that are discussed/dissed in the media, such as on TV or in magazine articles.

Judgments from people who do not know us can sometimes be more crushing than from those close to us. We may feel unfairly judged or belittled. Worse, we may even partially agree with these negative pronouncements. What is important here is to identify these feelings and examine their causes. If we cannot dispute a negative observation, perhaps we can change our mistake (did I forget to shower today? oops!) and also look for positive affirmations to counter the negative feelings. Sometimes the people who do know us can help (if they’re not part of the problem.) There are many books and online sources that can help us change what needs to be changed and grow from there.

As you can see, our perception of failing other people’s expectations is the seed from which poor self image sprouts. These causes of low self esteem are ubiquitous and unavoidable so you must learn to guard against them if you want to grow. Learning to deal with yourself and other people in a positive way is the one sure path to confidence and a good self image.

How To Have More Self Confidence

By Guest Author On May 23, 2010 25 Comments


We aim to directly assist you to get more self confidence, more self esteem into your life. The direct methods and techniques we use are from the fields of NLP and hypnosis, and are usually very effective in improving self confidence and self esteem so please do not hesitate to contact us today.

This kind of work is really best described as a blend of ‘self esteem education’ and ‘self confidence training’, rather than therapy. It is about working with the way that you think and feel about yourself and the world to help you to be able to go into more resourceful states both automatically, and at will. This isn’t just us telling you what to do, the work is very experiential. We work with you to get you to literally experience taking more control of your imagination with the aim of training your mind to think in ways that fill you with feelings of self confidence.

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What is Personal Development Part 1

By Guest Author On April 20, 2010 No Comments

What are the must have’s of a personal development practice? Performance Psychologist Chris Walton explains the 4 essentials.

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Inspirational Video On Increasing Your Confidence!

By Guest Author On December 15, 2009 25 Comments

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In this video, watch Paul Potts sing his heart out at Britain’s Got Talent Competition..

He doesn’t look like a singer, he’s been training all the way up to the competition but he lacks belief in himself. Now, he’s sold over 2 million copies of his record – simply because he believed in himself when others didn’t.

Really made me cry when he sang in this video.

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Dr. Robert Portnoy – The Sounds of Self-Confidence

By Guest Author On September 11, 2009 No Comments

Executive speech coach Dr. Robert Portnoy describes and demonstrates how to project self-confidence as a speaker and a leader.

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Self Confidence

By Guest Author On September 10, 2009 2 Comments

Film made after a msn convo which ended up me searching for it on Ebay. However i took note what was said and volla!! here you have it, the same experiance i had

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Building Children’s Self Confidence

By Guest Author On September 7, 2009 No Comments

Book and song about bullies, self confidence and loving yourself. Video directed by Patricia Drain’s grandson and inspiration for the book, Nathan. http://www.patriciadrain.com

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By Guest Author On September 6, 2009 20 Comments

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Brian Tracy – Unbreakable Laws Of Self-Confidence Motivational Video Preview from Seminars on DVD

By Guest Author On September 5, 2009 1 Comment

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Self-esteem and self-confidence play a major role in any quest for a happier, more fulfilling life. In this content-filled training video, self-esteem expert Brian Tracy brings you dozens of important ideas for taking your self-esteem and self-confidence to the next level. Of all the keys to success, self-confidence and self-esteem are the two critical factors that impact all areas of life. They determine how much money you will earn, how happy you will be, the quality of your relationships, your ability to attract the things you want, and more. Your self-confidence and self-esteem are everything! The challenge is that most of us were programmed with messages that lower our self-confidence from a very young age, and this old programming interferes with our ability to conquer our most coveted dreams and goals. In this powerful session, you’ll learn all of the most critical laws for literally reprogramming your mind and boosting your self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-concept to new levels.

Brian Tracy is one of the world’s most powerful and sought-after seminar leaders, speaking on personal performance, self-concept, sales, leadership, and business success. He has traveled and worked in more than eighty countries, and speaks four languages. Brian Tracy is a New York Times bestselling author, having written dozens of books that have been translated into more than twenty languages. He has appeared on countless television and radio shows, and is featured regularly in major publications across the country, and overseas. He has also conducted high-level consulting ignments with several billion-dollar-plus corporations in strategic planning and organization development. Brian Tracy is married, with four children, and is headquartered in Solana Beach, California.


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Building Self-Confidence for Sales Professionals

By Guest Author On September 4, 2009 1 Comment

Tips and Strategies for Business to Business Sales Professionals showing them how to increase their self-confidence and emotional strength

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