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Why Did He Dump Me?

By Guest Author On February 19, 2011 Under Improve Your Life, Improve Your Self Esteem, Law of Attraction, Self Help Tips, Self Improvement, Setting Goals, Success Secrets

Certainly in the top five of all the relationship questions we get from women has to be this one – Why did he dump me?  Just repeating the words conjures up all the frustration, hurt, anger and disappointment that a woman in love can feel.  Amazingly, we often discover upon involved follow-up that she had no idea that the relationship was about to end.   In fact, some women tell us they would prefer a combative relationship that – at least – lets them know where they stand.   A thorough understanding of these principles might, indeed, help to get ex back.  If you are trying to recover a broken relationship, your chance to win your ex back, will be heightened by knowing all these things. 

Nonetheless, we are quick to point out that many men do not telegraph their Coupe-de-Grasse in ending the relationship.  Men, it seems, prefer to come to a private and uninvolved conclusion.   Hence the term – Dumped.  Like an abandoned child at the railway station, women often feel just dropped on their pretty behinds as the jerk walks away.  Nonetheless, the question remains – Why did he dump me?

While there can be no single answer that satisfies all the myriad of situations wherein a guy calls it quits there are pluralities and groupings of normative behavior in this regard.  Men, it seems, take longer than women to warm up to the conclusion that they feel something – let alone love – for the woman they are dating.  This has little to do with sex or even companionship.  It has its root senses deep in his subconscious.

Men have what we call the Love Equation.  This is a subconscious mechanism that calculates for him the cost versus benefit of the relationship.   If the man feels that the quotient or outcome of his commitment is skewed heavily in his favor – he will not only stay in the relationship but he will ultimately commit.  If, on the other hand, he believes that the price of having the woman is greatly exceeded by giving up his freedom, he will at best drift and languish – especially if the creature comforts and sex are good – but eventually depart or ‘dump’ her.

Add whatever Cosmo-like qualification and edification you like to the mix – that is what it all boils down to.  So, if you were in the ‘dumped’ category in prior relationships your true course of action in the future is to make it appear to the guy that things are definitely skewed in his favor.

If you are attempting to get ex back from a breakup caused by the absence of these things, take heed.

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