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Wondering How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Here is Your Answer!

By Guest Author On March 20, 2011 Under Self Improvement

The questions started about the time you got hit right in the gut, just as sure as if you’d stepped into the octagon with Mauricio Rua. What did I do wrong? How could this have happened to me? Did she really leave me? And of course; How do I get my ex girlfriend back?

All the questions just cloud an already murky situation and make it even more difficult to figure out what you should do next. One thing is for certain; you can’t just do nothing. You need a plan to get her back. Unfortunately, the one thing you’re most likely to do is dead wrong.

Pay attention, Ace! Here are the first steps you need to follow if you want to discover how to win an ex girlfriend back after she dumped you. First of all , what you don’t want to do is make the number one mistake most guys make when their girlfriends leave them . That is simply trying too hard to win her back. It is only natural to try harder to get something that you think is moving out of reach , but 99% of the time, you’re dead wrong and only setting yourself up for more heartache .

You have to fly in the face of convention and do the opposite of what you really want to do. Don’t try so hard. On the other hand, don’t be mean to her, and don’t disrespect her, either. In fact, you want to pay as little attention to her as possible. If you have to talk to her, such as if she is coming by to pick up some things she left at your place, be nice and courteous, and most of all be yourself (your old self, before your heart was ripped out)

A vital step is to cut yourself off from as much communication with her as possible. Don’t text her, call her, e-mail her, skype her, write her love letters, or any other such nonsense. If you do any of that, you’ll only be watching her walk out of your life for good . Instead, if you want to win her back, you have to be a bit more strategic. You need to see the big picture.

One important step in the plan is to take a long, hard look inside. Don’t pull any punches, but don’t heap all the blame on yourself either . Have you changed, and is any part of the breakup your fault? Chances are you are at least a small bit to blame for the whole debacle . This is basically your evaluation phase. You’ll need  to do it before you proceed any further.

Before you put yourself through any more hell, stop and think for a minute. Do you really want to be back with her? Was the relationship really as great as you remember it being? Were the two of you great in the sack, but outside of a few of great orgasms a week, was your relationship anything to write home about? Do you want to rekindle the fire with her? If you do, then you can keep going. How are you supposed to keep going? Is communication still cut off? If it is, great, keep it that way. Now you have to get out there and really have some fun. Dive back into what ever it was you did before you met her. Go out with the guys (girls too, if they’re just friends), play sports, go skiing, see some concerts, travel, whatever, as long as you’re out and enjoying yourself.

Think about this. Moping around and wallowing in self pity changes who you are. Really, it makes you the last person whe’d want to spend any time with . Would you want to be around yourself right now? Probably not. You want to focus on having fun without her, and there is a good reason for doing all this. You want to demonstrate to her that you’re doing great without her . Only then will you have a chance at getting her back. If you you have some common friends and acquaintances, word will soon get back to her that you’re getting along just fine without her, and that is exactly how you want it.

You’ll be able to start going farther and thinking about getting her back, but all in good time. If you want to know how to get a girl back, you can’t push things too fast. If you push too hard it will all come apart. Relax, and just let things happen. If you do everything just right, there’s a good chance they will!

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